I followed a couple pieces of general advice i found in a few places. When i got home from work, I took her out of cage (where she still was, hubby said she never ventured more than a foot out of it). picked her up, put on a harness and a tie out chain and we went out for a potty break. Cant say she was a fan at first, but at least i didnt have to chase her around yard bring her in. Then once inside i put the lightweight (and shorter) leash on and had her follow me around. We sat down in recliner for a little bit where i held a treat or 2 in my hands. She eventually ate them (i knew she was hungry as she hadnt eaten yet). We been doing that pretty much all night, me keeping her close using a leash. Currently content to lay beside me, and follows me (somewhat) when walking around the house. Progress is good, and shes eaten a little (about 1/4 what bag says to give). So progress today, still a ways to go, and need a way to get hubby to bond as well (he just had surgery, cannot bend over or lift over 5 lbs). We are getting there, i think i was impatient and/or she was stuck in frame of mind of pure fear. I think she likes me now, lol.
thanks all, if anyone has further advice let me know, ill check back when i can.